Online Safety and Critical
Thinking: The lessons children learn on the Internet today could save their
lives tomorrow
By Lawrence J. Magid (http://www.safekids.com/articles/critical.htm) |
Lots of people have written about child safety on the Internet and weighed in
on various proposals to criminalize online pornography. And there have been
plenty of articles written on the advisability of using filters in homes,
schools or libraries in order to block inappropriate material from reaching the
eyes of children. These issues are important and should be explored, but you
rarely hear anyone talking about the positive aspects of inappropriate material
on the Net.
Positive?
How could it possibly be positive for kids to have to deal with smut, hateful
and violent material? Well, it’s hard to find anything positive to say about
that type material, but I do think that the presence of inappropriate material
presents a challenge for children and families that, in the long term can lead
to a wiser and more secure citizenry.
OK,
maybe the material itself isn’t positive, but how you, as a parent, deal
with dangers or inappropriate material online can send a lasting message that
children can apply to all aspects of their lives.
Let’s
face it. While there are dangers associated with going online, the dangers are
far less than many other things children will be faced with as they grow up.
Whether it’s looking both ways before they cross the street, buckling up even
when mom or dad forget to remind them, or knowing how to say no to a stranger
who approaches them on the street, kids have got to learn to be defensive in
the way they approach life. This is especially true as they reach their teenage
years.
Teens
are the Most Vulnerable
Statistics
from the Department of Justice (DOJ) are startling. Young people between the
ages 12 and 15 are 85% more likely to be sexually assaulted than the population
in general. Teens between 16 and 19 suffer 3 1/2 times the sexual assault rate
as the general population. Teenagers, regardless of race, are also far more
likely to be victimized by other forms of assault and robbery according to the
DOJ Bureau of Justice Statistics. In 1996, about 1 out of 10 teenagers was a
victim of a violent crime, according to DOJ data.
Keeping
ones identify -- especially their address, phone number and full name --
private when online greatly reduced the possibility of being victimized by an
online predator. But, let’s put this into context. Statistically, kids are more
far likely to be sexually assaulted by a family member or someone else they
already know than someone they might "meet" in an Internet chat room. Yet, the
skills we teach kids to remain safe on the Internet can translate to staying
safe in "real life." The rules of conduct, whether focused on cyberspace or
real space are basically the same.
And
crime isn’t even the biggest danger. Throughout their teenage years, young
people are confronted with many decisions that could have a profound impact on
them, but mom and dad won’t be there to say yes or no and there won’t be any
filtering software to prevent them from making a costly mistake. If kids can
learn early to say no when they’re online, they might remember those
lessons when they’re confronted with an important decision off-line.
Life
Long Lessons
And
it doesn’t end when kids turns 18. I know plenty of adults who have gotten
themselves into personal, legal or financial trouble because of decisions they
made that were not in their own best interest.
The
need to think critically even applies to how we conduct ourselves as citizens
and in the marketplace. People cast their votes based on 30-second sound bytes
rather than studying a candidate’s record or make major financial decisions
based on an anonymous tip, a salesperson’s or broker’s recommendation or
something they read on the Internet. Is that critical thinking?
There
are no control programs that can shelter people from those who would try to get
us to buy something, vote for someone, join a club or a cult or fall for some
get rich quick scheme that’s "too good to be true." But sound judgment can go a
long way.
It
Starts When They’re Young
The
way teens and adults approach these decisions is usually based on lessons they
learned when they were young. But the lessons are rarely specific to the
individual decision. You can’t possibly prepare a person with a script that
they can use to apply to every decision that they’re ever make but you can at
least strive to equip someone with the judgment skills to approach all
decisions in a critical manner. Those critical thinking skills that we carry
with us our entire lives are based on what we learn as children.
So,
when it comes to safety on the Internet, don’t limit your thinking to keeping
kids away from porno and predators in chat rooms and don’t fool yourself into
thinking that blocking sex sites will protect them from dangers on or off-line.
Those are worthwhile things to do, but in addition to being ends in themselves
they are also means to an end. What kids learn about Internet safety will stick
with them even when they’re not online.
Confront
the Issues
Confront
the issue head on. I don’t know whether it’s right or wrong for you to use a
filtering program in your home, but I do know that it’s wrong to rely on one as
your only defense against dangers on the Net. One thing I do know for sure is
that the best filters don’t run on computers, they run in a child’s head.
Go
over the "My Rules for Online Safety" (www.safekids.com/myrules.htm with
younger kids and "Basic Rules of Online Safety for Teens"
(www.safeteens.com/teenrules.htm) with any teenagers in your family.
Most
of all, talk with your kids. Ask them how they use the Internet and ask them if
they can think of ways that they can stay safe. Be open, supportive and as no
threatening as possible. Kids need to know that you won't overreact and take
away their online privileges if they confide in you about troublesome people or
material they encounter online.
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